Fleur Lonsdale, subconscious coach and NLP Master Practitioner

just us, straight to it ✦

1:1 Coaching · She Ignites

Coaching with Fleur

For the woman who's done the work, read the books and sat in the sessions, and is still the one holding everything. One hour a week, just us, going to what your mind decided about you and changing it there.

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Fleur Lonsdale, subconscious coach for women

Two ways to do this with me

Same root. Different room.

Both go to exactly the same place. Choosing is about who you want in the room, not how deep you're allowed to go.

Fleur Lonsdale, who works 1:1 with women online

for the woman who's hit a ceiling she can't think her way past

1:1 Coaching

12 Weeks, 6 Months or 1 Year · Weekly

One session a week, just us, at your pace. A deep dive through your whole life to find the patterns, beliefs and emotions actually blocking the path ahead. Subconscious coaching leads, with NLP, hypnosis and quantum healing where it's needed. For the woman who makes no excuses and wants real accountability.

Spots are genuinely limited. We always talk first.

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for the woman who's done being the strong one on her own

She Ignites

90 Days · Group Mastermind

The same work, in a room of women standing where you're standing. You learn as much from them as from your own turn: someone describes her situation and you see yourself in it, when on your own you never would have. The group is the differentiator, not the discount.

Spots capped per cohort. Everything is on the She Ignites page.

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Or talk it through with me first

Read both and thought "that's me, and that's me too"? Completely normal, and it's what the free call is for. Tell me what's going on and I'll tell you honestly which one fits, including if the honest answer is neither of them yet.

Before you apply

1:1 is yours if this is your normal

Not your worst day. The ordinary Tuesday you've stopped questioning.

You can explain exactly why you are the way you are. It hasn't changed how you feel.

You've hit a ceiling. Every time you get close to the next thing, something in you pulls the handbrake and you can't find it.

You're the strong one. You've been the strong one since you were small, and nobody has ever asked whether you were okay.

You snap at the people you love most, then hate yourself for hours over it.

What's going on for you feels too specific, or too raw, to say out loud in front of a group. You want the room to be just us.

You want someone who'll hold you to it. Not gently agree with you for twelve weeks.

Your life looks good on paper. You feel guilty for not feeling better inside it.

None of that is your personality, and none of it is a flaw you have to manage for the rest of your life. It's a set of decisions your mind made a long time ago to keep you safe. Decisions can be changed.

What it actually is

One hour a week, built around you

There's no curriculum waiting for you. Each session starts with what's actually happening in your life that week, and we work it at the level it's held.

it's never a script

Nothing is pre-written

I don't arrive with module four. I arrive with you. What we do in a session is decided by what you bring and what I can see underneath it, and that changes week to week because your life does.

That's the whole reason women choose 1:1. Your work isn't waiting its turn behind anyone else's.

and it's never re-living it

We don't go back through the worst of it

This is the biggest fear women bring me. We are not sitting in the detail of what happened so you can feel all of it again. That isn't healing, it's hurting you twice.

Your story gets acknowledged fully, and nothing gets skipped. We change the decision you made about yourself inside it.

A weekly session, just us

Around an hour, online, with my full attention on your pattern. 12 weeks, 6 months or a year, and we work out the right length together before you start anything.

Me on text and voice between sessions

When something comes up on a Wednesday you don't sit on it until next week. You message me. That access is part of the work, not a bonus bolted on the side.

Recordings made for you

Activations, hypnosis, visualisations and meditations, made for your pattern specifically. Not a generic library. They keep the work going in your body between sessions.

Whatever tool the moment needs

Subconscious coaching leads. NLP, hypnosis, Emotional Change Technique and quantum healing come in where they're the right thing, not because they're on a list.

Real accountability

I will ask you the question you've been walking around. I'll tell you what I can see, warmly and straight. You didn't come here to be agreed with.

Mentorship, if that's what you need

Some women come for the pattern and stay for the building. If what you're growing needs someone in your corner as well, that's available here too.

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How the work runs

The Recode

Four stages. In 1:1 they're aimed at your exact pattern from the first session, not paced to a group.

Reveal

We find the decision. Not the story you can already tell me, the thing you concluded about yourself while it was happening. Most women have never said it out loud, because nobody has asked them the question that gets to it.

Resolve

We take the charge off it. Your story is acknowledged fully, and nothing gets skipped or rushed past. What changes is that it stops running you. It's allowed to stay alive without affecting you.

Recode

We put something true in its place, at the level it's actually held. This is the part that makes the difference stick, and it's the part almost nothing else you've tried has done.

Reinforce

We make it your normal. Recordings made for you, real situations tested between sessions, and me on the other end of the phone while it beds in. This is where a shift becomes who you are.

You will not leave with a better explanation of your pattern. You already have one of those, and it hasn't helped.

In their words, not mine

Women who sat in this room

Every one of these is a 1:1 client. Most of them had already done therapy, courses, or years of reading before they got here.

★★★★★

"Before having coaching with Fleur, I was stuck in rejection, in fact I was for as long as I could remember. I also tended to get stuck in sadness and anxiety quite a lot. Since working with Fleur, rejection has popped up once and it was able to disappear whereas before it would stay with me for days and longer. I haven't dealt with sadness or anxiety since working with Fleur which is just amazing."

Tania

★★★★★

"By diving into the source of some of my strong emotions that always had massive impact during arguments with people I love most, we healed the root of this and it led to really big change. I now have fewer arguments, allow myself to take breaks, and respond less impulsively. I've also always had the challenge to focus on what I think is best for others, but now I'm able to take a minute and feel what I really want."

Josien

★★★★★

"I had previously seen a counsellor and had work supervision but found both falling short for my needs. Fleur was amazing, she tailored a specific programme for me and then worked with me on priority areas that were blocking me from being the mum, partner and professional I really wanted to be. Others around me have noticed how much happier I am, I'm getting back to doing the things I love and I'm even getting further ahead in my career."

Tennille

★★★★★

"I'm only four weeks into my coaching with Fleur and it's already surpassed my expectations. I was open to trying something new and desperately needed the support to move forwards in my life, but I did not anticipate how much my mindset would have changed and how much I would have overcome by this point. I feel freer already."

Emily

★★★★★

"Thank you so much for being so patient with me through your coaching and healing. You bring such grounded, level headed wisdom and you helped me travel so deeply into the parts of myself I was scared to go to before. I feel more freedom in my body and I feel more confidence in my mind and you're lifechanging."

Tarley

★★★★★

"After 8+ weeks of honest, tough and enjoyable work together, I am feeling inspired and back in control of my thoughts. I'm happy again, have improved relationships and communication with loved ones, have realigned my path with my values again and grown stronger as a person. Thank you for telling me straight and keeping it real."

Jana

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Fleur Lonsdale, NLP Master Practitioner and emotional change specialist, at home

Why I work this way

I lived this before I taught it.

I lost my baby at 17 weeks. I was already a coach, already trained, already the woman everyone else came to. None of the tools I had touched it. For five months I was in pieces.

What finally moved it wasn't understanding it better. It was going to what I'd decided about myself and changing it there. And it didn't stop at the grief. It changed my relationship with my mum, and with my partner, and it made me a calmer, more present mother through my next pregnancy.

Not because either of them changed. Because what I was holding changed, and I stopped needing anyone else to be different in order for me to be okay.

Every tool I use with you, I used on myself first. That's why I can sit across from you in a 1:1 room and mean it. It was never supposed to take you this long.

NLP Master Practitioner · NLP Master Coach · Hypnosis Master Practitioner · Emotional Change Technique Master Practitioner · Quantum Healing Practitioner

No mystery

What happens when you apply

Applying isn't a commitment and it isn't a test. It's how I make sure I don't take your money for the wrong thing.

You fill in the form

A few honest questions about what keeps repeating, what you've already tried, and why now. It takes a few minutes. Nobody sees it but me.

We get on a call

Thirty minutes on Zoom. You tell me what's going on, I ask you the questions I'd ask in a first session, and we work out the right length together.

I tell you the truth

If 1:1 is right, we start. If She Ignites is a better fit, I'll say so. If the timing is wrong, I'll say that too. No pressure and no invented deadlines.

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Before you apply

The things women actually ask me

We work that out on the call, because it depends on the length. 12 weeks, 6 months and a year are not the same commitment and I'm not going to put one number on a page and pretend they are.

Payment plans are available and they're handled in the conversation, not published as a fixed split. Ask me. I won't make it weird.

Who's in the room, and what the pacing is built around. She Ignites moves a capped group through 90 days together. The group is genuinely part of the method: another woman names her pattern, you hear yours inside it, and you get there in a way you wouldn't have on your own.

1:1 is built around your pattern from session one. Nothing is waiting its turn, and nothing has to be said in front of anyone else. Different reason to choose it, not a better one. Have a look at She Ignites if the group is pulling at you.

No, and I'm not trying to be one. I'm a Master Coach, an NLP practitioner and a hypnotherapist. This is subconscious work, and it sits somewhere different to therapy and counselling.

Therapy helped a lot of my clients understand what happened to them. That's real and I'm not here to run it down. What I do is work the layer underneath the understanding. If you're currently under the care of a doctor or a mental health professional, bring them into the conversation before you start.

No. This is the biggest fear women bring me and the answer matters. We are not going back through the detail of the worst thing that happened to you so you can feel all of it again. That isn't healing, it's just hurting you twice.

We also don't skip it or pretend it didn't happen. Your story gets acknowledged fully. We go to the decision you made about yourself in that moment, and we change the charge on that. The memory stays. It just stops running your life.

Because you can already explain exactly why you are the way you are, and it hasn't changed how you feel. That's the tell. Being able to see out of it isn't the same as being out of it.

Everything you've done so far worked at the level of understanding and managing. This works at the level where the decision is actually stored. That's the whole difference, and it's why it moves faster than what you've tried.

The change itself can genuinely feel easy, and I won't hedge on that. It lingered for years because the approaches you tried worked at the wrong level, not because you weren't trying hard enough. It was never supposed to take this long.

What isn't easy is the honesty. You have to be willing to look at things you've spent a long time not looking at, and answer questions you've been avoiding. You show up for that part. The rest is my job.

Most women feel a real shift in the first two or three sessions. Not a nice mood on a Sunday. A different reaction in a situation that used to reliably set them off.

What I won't do is put a timeline on your whole life. I'll promise you the work goes to the root, and that's the reason it moves.

Sometimes yes, sometimes there's a short waitlist. I only hold a certain number of 1:1 women at once because the between-session access is real and I'm not going to spread it thin.

That's a capacity limit, not a countdown timer. I'm not going to invent urgency on top of it. Apply and I'll tell you exactly where things stand.

Completely normal, and it isn't a problem. Plenty of women arrive able to say only that they're tired of themselves and they want to feel different. That's enough to start with.

This work doesn't need you to know where it started. Finding it is part of the work, not homework you have to finish before you're allowed to apply.

No. The form is how I find out whether I can actually help you, and it makes the call a hundred times more useful than starting from scratch.

You don't have to decide anything on the call either. Taking money for the wrong thing is a terrible way to run a business, so if this isn't your fit I'll tell you, and I'll tell you what is.

One decision

You've done enough managing.

You're allowed to actually change this. Not understand it better. Not cope with it more gracefully. Not collect one more framework for carrying it. Change it, at the place it's held, so the woman you've been performing and the woman you actually are stop being two different people.

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